The Spell
smudge yourself and all the items to be using for this spell. Next draw triple sacred circle, laying down white light first, cobalt blue light second, and white light third. Then call in your dream guardians. Rub a fine film of the dragon's blood oil over the three candles, a and as you do, imagine yourself letting go of your grief. Then light the candles one at a time.

Next fold the silver belt over the altar, ring it three times, and say:

I call upon the powers of the Goddess this night.
Ring the bell three more times and say:
I call upon the powers of the God this night.
Ring the bell for three more times and say:
I call upon the ancient powers that be.

Place the bill back on the altar, and then pick up the ribbon, holding an end in each hand. Imagine that the right and represents you while the left and represents your grief. Name the ends as such by holding up the right and and saying your name three times, and then holding up the left and and naming your grief three times. Set the Ribbon back upon the altar. Take a few minutes to center yourself completely, aligning your being with the energies of peace, love, and harmony.

Pick up the Bell, ring it three times, and say:

below and above, Earth and Sea,
I awaken these energies in me.
With this tonight that I now release my grief and painful feelings about( name grief).
By the will of the ancient ones,
by the will of the one, as I will, it is done!

Now saturate the ribbon or strain in the dragon's blood oil and cut it in half. Like the ribbon in the candle flame, and then burn both pieces in your censer or caldron.

As the ribbon burns, chanting these words:

Sacred flame, take my Pain!
Sacred fire, consumed my grief!

Once the smoke has cleared, take a few deep breaths. See and sense yourself breathing and bright white light and breathing out your feelings of grief into a cobalt blue balloon. This balloon can be filled more and more without ever popping. The keep filling the balloon with any painful feelings, imagining it expanding more and more. Do this for as long as it takes to exhale all your grief into the balloon, and then release the balloon into the sky, watching it disappear into the night. Next pick up the Bell and ring it nine times. Snuff out the candles, and thank the divine powers that help you with your work. Pull up the triple circle of light in the order that you laid it down, and then release your dream guardians. Next smudge yourself for a few minutes, and then smudge your tools, altar, and bedroom. Complete the work by taking a warm salt water bath, using 1/2 cup of sea salt in your bathwater. As you soak, imagine any residual feelings of grief been absorbed by the water. Within the next three days you'll be able to release a good deal of your grief. This will lighten your load and energize you.

- From Amethyst's Wicca

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